Here goes today: we had a busy morning! There was 5 counselors and me, and I've been along with someone enough that I can now do most of the interview by myself :) There is always someone more experimented around to help me with referrals...
So anyway this morning I had a very shaking young lady, about 23 years old, from Honduras. She already has a daughter there (3 years old) and she is scared to have an other child. She doesn't have papers and came here to get money saved for her daughter.
And now she is 15 weeks pregnant.
We talked a bit. All in Spanish which was not easy for me... But she understood what I was trying to say. She didn't know anything about abortion. When she saw the plastic model of fetal development for 15 weeks she said "oh it's a baby!". I think she really didn't know what abortion was, especially not in a second trimester pregnancy..
Anyway I think she changed her mind. It's not easy to realize that abortion is not the magic answer that undo pregnancy. It's not easy to be responsible about it and find an option that considers not only your own comfort but also the one of the little one to come...
I'm very humbled when I come out of this place, when I meet women going through though situations like this...
Anyway I untitled this post " dear negatives" because we also get girls who test negative.
And I have a sixth sense, I KNOW their test will be negative. Those girls are usually younger, between 16 and 25, but they act less mature, almost giggling. Sometimes I doubt they even have had sex, sometimes I know they don't care.
They don't really come for the pregnancy test, or for an abortion (most of them when ask " what would be your decision if the test is positive ? they answer " probably parenting") . They just come for the talk. I can't prove it, but I'm sure they just come to get a mommy talk about guys, sex, relationships. If I talk to them about fertility awareness they are fascinated, if I talk about the value of sex, how great it is tha tit can bring life, how valuable it is to have that level of trust in a relationship, that you can say " I love you so much I want a baby with you!" They are hungry for those talks. NONE told me " this is out of reality". I actually say it myself at some point : "this is not what we grow up with, it's not what you hear everyday, but it's worth thinking about..."
I tell them about failure rates and where to look for informations, and most don't know much...
I like those girls. Some are making up stories about their valentines day, about their "boyfriend" etc, but in the end all they want is attention, someone who will take them seriously and warn them, introduce them to the meaning of body language and give them some tough love.
In the past 2 weeks I met 2 girls like this. I like to talk with them because there is no pressure or drama about " what will I do with the baby?"
I would like that they realize how precious they are, not because they are pregnant, and not because they can have a boyfriend, just because of themselves.
Young women are powerful AND vulnerable a the same time because of all the love they have to give.
So what do you want to do with that love?
2 comments:
don't you wish you could reach out to every girl like this in the world and love them? Sometimes I see these girls with their revealing clothes and these guys who don't seem to respect them, and I want to grab them away, and let them know they are beautiful and worthy.....I am glad you take the time to talk to these girls, and make a difference in their lives...a little bit of love can go a long way, especially when it is backed by prayer!
how precious they are, not because they are pregnant, and not because they can have a boyfriend, just because of themselves.
What a perfect point. I'm so glad you're there to have these talks.
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