I.U.D.

On Thursdays I volunteer for the morning in an emergency pregnancy center, or center for pregnancy crisis, or something like that that spells EMC. (I forgot what it stands for exactly, I'll check again later.)
I just want to note down a couple things before they blurr..
I started volunteer because of my recent pro-life evolution (last year I was unclear and unconsistant). So anyway I decided I would be anti-abortion, and pro-life, but I didn't want to be "extremist" or march down the street with a rosary and a picture of a dead baby. So I decided to volunteer. If I meet women who are in difficult situation, and want an abortion, maybe if I see why, then I will see how my nice theories are only theories.

Well, on the contrary. The more I see, the more I'm not only against abortion, but against contraception.
Now that's being extremist!
And the more I see, the more I tend to find reasons outside of religion.
I first thought : "oh foetus are human beings, with infinite dignity, a right to life and respect." I still believe it .
But beyond that I realize how much contraception is alienating women from their rights.

Today for example, a woman came to get her IUD.
My colleague tells her about NFP and how IUD can cause early abortions, if she is aware of the side effects, effectiveness and so and so.
The woman is interested in NFP, she 'd like to know more.
We talk, I join in because I just took the NFP class.
During the conversation she mentions her difficulties with her husband, his lack of respect, his seeing other girls, disrespecting her in front of his friends, going out every night and more and more and more.
She says : " I will take the NFP class because I'm interresting in knowing my body, but my husband won't come, and if we can't have sex he will force me or go with someone else."
I believed her, but even if she exagerated this is showing a deep problem.
"Take you contraceptive and be quiet" as long as he can "have sex" whenever he feels like it... who cares about responsabilities? who cares about a woman being abused? as long as we can keep it quiet..

This is what abortion tells me: " Just keep it quiet."
I don't think it gave any progress into women lives.
Some women come for abortion because they don't want "people to find out" that they're pregnant, because "people" would talk...
I mean is that such a progress in mentalities, that a woman would rather sacrifice her child than her reputation? I there a sexual liberation when a woman can have sex and brag about it, but she has to hide a pregnancy?