best advices for newly weds

The best piece of advice I have received so far, I probably mentioned it before, but here again:
YOU chose who you're going to disappoint.

the first time I heard it I was thinking : " oh I don't want to disappoint anyone!!" and this is the problem. If you want to please everyone, then at some point you're going to neglect something, or someone.
And this is where the choosing part is important. What matters more: Finishing that paper tonight (which would take 2 hours) or being home for dinner?
I think it's a day to day decision.
I tend to want to please everyone, and I want that my boss can rely on me when needed, but more than anything my husband is important, he is my partner for life, not just for a year or 3 or 10. For a life time, and that makes dinner more important than this paper. I can finish the paper by coming early if needed, or skipping lunch, but if I get in the habit of putting my husband AFTER something else, then I take him for granted..


I just finished reading " the first years of forever". It was a pretty good book overall and I'm glad I read it.
The most interesting parts, to me, were:
the chapter about forgiveness,
the chapter about communication (pretty basic but a good reminder)
the chapter about the best ways to love your husband
and the last chapter about "forever"

I really was glad to read most of those advices. It's a christian-faith book, but really the advices are good for anyone in a relationship.