Abort the boyfriend, not the baby!

Today in EMC I had a talk with a counsellor. She was upset because there is an "ad" in a newspaper that says :" FREE ABORTIONS alternatives".
she says it's lying.
And I agree with her. 100%
So of course some people coma or call, asking for free abortion, and we have to explain them that we don't refer for abortions.
So I took the opportunity to tell her about my concerns when mentioning religious things to non-religious people.
So we agreed on how to talk and present things: whatever the guy who does advertisement presents we have to be upfront: we don't think abortion is the best choice to make, and we think that whatever a woman decides ultimately she should explore other options. Especially if you lean toward abortion, because there is no coming back. You can always chose between adoption and parenting, but if the fetus is dead, well there is not much choice left... And obviously that was not the best for him..

Anyway I listened to 2 ladies today. Both in their 20's.
The first one had a tummy tuck and esthetic surgery in DR last year. And she" can't afford" to have a baby now. She meant physically. We adviced her to get medical advice about it. The tummy tuck was more than a year ago, and I'm no doctor to tell if it will be life threatening or not, BUT if it was very dangerous for her to get pregnant then the doctor should have insisted a lot more on how babies are made.
We live in the ambiant lie that sex is for fun. It's not. Sexual relationships tie people together, AND IT CAN BRING LIFE.
I'm not pro-contraception, but if someone doesn't understand why chastity is good for them, and still wants to have sex and not get pregnant, I think they should by any mean be responsible about it.
I heard so many times: " I didn't ask for this baby.
- well, let's see, if you WANTED to get pregnant, what would you do different?"

if the answer is nothing, then maybe you get something to think about.
Anyway... Our first girl of the day was set up to have an abortion and she didn't want to think further about it.

The second girl I talked with came for an abortion as well. She is 20, she has 2 little girls 3 and 1 years old. She was with her boyfriend for 8 years. He has a drinking problem, and leaves her regularly only to come back a few months later.
That was after my conversation with the other counsellor, so when she said abortion we explained her as clearly as we could why we believe it's not a good option. Then we talked more, about her children, her job, her family. She had a very good relationship with an open family, with several sisters, and 7 nephews... So she can get support from them.. She also has a bad job: 5:30 AM to 8PM 6 days a week...
We suggested that she takes time to imagine her life for each option: abortion, adoption and parenting with this new baby: what will change, who could help etc.
And she smiled so much when evocating the parenting option. :) It was heart melting :)
So she gave it further reflection and saw how much she could make this baby into a new chance for her life. Passing GED, changing job, seperating definitively from the bad boyfriend, a new brother or sister for her girls etc.
Life is a blessing if you work with it, not against it. :)
Yes unplanned pregnancies are a drama, they are unfortunate, but are they really?
Don't they point out a change to make? A new plan for your life?

This girl was "transfigured". She left smiling, full of thinking and hopes for her life.
What will happen next no one knows. But I'm glad she just took the time to stop and think, and really imagin herself in each case, and find for herself where her heart goes.

Anyway the lessons of the day are for me:
-"choose life!" again and again this sentence echoes in my head as the motto of the freedom seeker I am... :)
and
-speak up. It's easy to blame things on others: I don't like prolife people because they're so republican, they're so hypocrits, they are this or that... I don't like religious people because they judge others, etc. Well don't let that stop you!
If you have beliefs, don't let others' people behavior stop you from saying your word on the topic. If you disagree with something your Church is doing, first of all learn more about it. And then SPEAK UP: say what you feel uncomfrotable with, and offer to help with it! Because guess what, you are this Church!